One of the many things that can hold us back in life is our hard-wired need to make excuses for the problems in our lives, and our personal shortcomings. Some people don’t realize the difference between reasons and excuses, and it can be a serious hang-up on the road to personal empowerment and a good life.
Here’s an example of an excuse. You have a bad attitude, and someone asks you why you have it. You tell them that people have been mean to you all your life, so you’re giving it back. That’s not the actual reason for your attitude, it’s just a poor excuse for your bad behavior. The real reason, hard as it may be to swallow, is that you have chosen to be a product of negative influence, and you don’t care enough to rise above it and be a better person.
It’s far too easy for us to make excuses. They are the soft pillow that saves us from the hard fall of realizing that we’re flawed, and we need to be better. People will say that they have a bad life because of things that happened to them in the past. They may say that they can’t do better because no one believes in them. These kind of answers are just excuses, and you need to stop making them.
It’s not going to be easy, but taking excuses out of your life is very important. You need to take personal responsibility for who you are and what you do. There is nothing you can say about your past that will make it okay for you to be cruel to others or not work to improve yourself.
You may be the product of the things that have happened to you and the things that people have done to you, but you can start changing that at any time. When you make excuses, you are choosing to let your life stay in ruins. You are creating that life for yourself.
In taking personal responsibility for your current and future actions, you gain power over the events of your past. You need to take the power away from the people that have done you wrong, and use it to make yourself into the best person that you can be.
People have treated me like dirt for most of my life. That doesn’t give me an excuse to treat other people that way. I have spent the majority of my life being poor and downtrodden, that’s not an excuse for me to let my life stay that way. You need to learn from what has happened to you in the past, and use that knowledge to improve yourself and your situation.